As an online divorce review site, we’re always happy to pass along good news to our site visitors who may not see divorce as a good thing right now. Recently on Reddit, someone asked a question about what some positive things were regarding the end of a marriage for those gloomy days when it seems to be getting you down. Here were some of our favorite responses.
1. “I don’t have to apologize to him anymore, or feel like I’m walking on eggshells when he has a bad day at work. I don’t have to feel bad for not wanting sex with him. I’m getting close to getting full-time work again, which will mean a greater sense of independence and ‘moving on’ for me. Best of all: he no longer has any bearing on my life, or where I go, or what I become. I get to decide, and it feels really nice.”
2. “Yes the act of divorce sucks! I was heart broken, nauseous, depressed, but my friends, family and acquaintances supported me in ways I didn’t expect, or even thought I deserved. The amount of love that I received from people I barely knew was the most amazing and heart warming thing that has even happened to me. Upon receiving this love from so many others, I realized that I was not loved at home, by the man who should have loved me the most. Everyone says it gets easier, and they are right. We just move at out own pace. If you are feeling a little gloomy, do one nice thing for yourself or just be around a kind a positive person, it’s infectious and will help you through this rough time.”
3. “There are lots of things, but the little day-to-day things have had the most impact. My books aren’t in the basement anymore; heck, I even get to read them from time to time. If I’m tired when I get home from work, I sit down for a few minutes without being berated or made to feel like the house isn’t perfect enough. Knowing exactly how much money is in the bank account and that none will spontaneously ‘disappear.'”
4. “Mine is learning from my marriage on how to improve myself and potentially finding someone who is more compatible with me.”
5. “You get to do everything your way again. [When] I got divorced, I rearranged the dishes in the cupboards, move the furniture around in the house, and did my laundry how I liked it. I was able to cook food I liked (my ex was a vegetarian) and sweets and alcohol lasted longer.”
6. “Not having to deal with her crazy family. Not having to focus on her…I didn’t realize how much time she took away from me. Now I can invest that time with the kids and actually have fun! Not being manipulated. Being able to actually have disagreements and even arguments that follow logic and actually reach a resolution. Not feeling the burden of emotionally giving and never receiving anything in return. I am so thankful that I am done with her.”
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