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Why Divorce Will Make You Question Everything

Divorce is a difficult life experience that no one ever hopes they have to go through. Nevertheless, each year about half of all married people resort to it, depending on which set of statistics you believe. It also has a tendency to leave the people experiencing it in doubt about everything they thought they knew. There are three reasons, to be more specific, that divorce will make you question everything. Those three reasons are as follows.

1. It’s a betrayal of trust. 

When you stand up in front of your friends and family and exchange vows to have and to hold until death do you part, you’re putting a great deal of trust in the person you’re saying those words to. You’re also placing a lot of trust in the institution of marriage itself. Whether the betrayal you experience is infidelity or simply growing apart, you are bound to be disappointed by people and/or ideas you held dear. That’s hard to overcome when your world view has already been established, and it leads to you questioning whether you were wrong the whole time about life and about your ability to read others.

2. It uproots your sense of stability. 

In spite of all the statistics to the contrary, people still tend to look at marriage as a permanent institution that means “for life” in the sense that you have a relationship you can count on to weather every storm, through thick and thin, forever. When that fails, the part of you that still thinks that way experiences turmoil in the very construct you’ve grown to rely upon. Naturally you start to feel unstable in every aspect of your life.

3. It doesn’t show you the end results upfront. 

When you divorce, all you see is the failure aspects of divorce. You haven’t grown and developed enough past it to see the many good things that will come from it with hard work, determination, and the right attitude. If you could get divorced but be able to look into a crystal ball and see yourself happy and well-adjusted three or four years down the road, it wouldn’t cause you to question as much as you do. But that’s not possible. You have to first go through the work, and before you settle your mind to do so, it’s understandable that you have a lot of doubts about the present.

What were some long-held things you started to question as a result of the divorce process?

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