On Reddit, a poster recently asked the question as to whether men and women behave differently immediately following the decision to divorce.
“Men generally don’t wait as long to get back on the dating scene … Women [lean] towards taking more time to ‘learn how to be alone’ … Does this seem to ring true to people?”
Other Redditors found the generalization to be too broad. “I completely disagree,” said one commenter. “I think the defining factor is who ended the marriage. The person who wanted the divorce is usually the one who moves on quicker. He or she has already processed that the marriage is over before the other spouse even finds out.”
As an online divorce review site that has experience in communicating with our readership, this response rings true to us as well. Going one further, however, our statistics show that women tend to end the marriage 64 percent of the time, meaning that it’s usually the female in a heterosexual relationship who moves on first.
If you’re the person who is ready to move on, it’s pretty simple to do so. If you’re left wondering what happened, however, it’s another story. It’s during this time period that the following advice is the most helpful.
Don’t assume that your ex will come back to you.
Could it happen? Yes. Will it happen? Likely, no. That’s because getting a divorce is a big decision and people don’t go to the trouble of it unless they’re sure. The best thing you can do for your mental and physical health is to treat it like what it is: the end of your marriage. The sooner you realize this, the easier it will be to move on.
If you and your spouse have agreed to go through with a divorce but you’re not sure where to turn in getting an attorney or doing it yourself, check out our online divorce reviews to see which path is right for you, and to learn the top services that will meet your needs.