Making the decision to file for divorce is one of the toughest that a man or woman can ever make. When a marriage ends, most people replay the circumstances leading up to it over and over again in their heads. This creates quite a bit of wisdom and introspection that would have been handy from the beginning. Here are three of the most vital tips.

First: Don’t Lose Sight Of Who You Are As Individuals.

In religious circles, the marrying of two people creates a union where “two become one.” It is a nice sentiment, but if you want to stay “one,” you’d better learn how to stay individuals. Having experience outside of each other gives you things to talk about, and talk is communication (a pretty awesome thing to have in a marriage). Most do-it-yourself divorce cases that we see get that way because of communication issues, so it can’t hurt to have a night out with the girls or a night in playing cards with the fellas. It will certainly bring you closer.

Secondly: Realize That You Both Will Change Over Time.

This doesn’t mean that you have to stop loving one another. To the contrary! One of the great things about a committed, quality marriage is growing in your love for one another and in your interests. If you accept your partner for who they are and respect the person they’re becoming, it can take care of a lot of major issues. Life circumstances are tricky to navigate, but with communication (See No. 1) you’ll thrive.

Finally: Don’t Let Outside Forces Drive A Wedge

Young couples have such difficulties getting along when outside (family) forces rear their often ugly heads. Parameters must be set early in the marriage. You should communicate and demonstrate to your loved ones that you are now your own family unit and that must take priority over other forces (namely, their influence). By prioritizing your marriage in this way, you’ll actually be strengthening bonds with family members and each other.

If you’re past the point of saving your marriage and you need help in reducing time, costs, and turmoil, let us help you with a DIY divorce. We can walk you through the process and get you taken care of right away.