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Unhappy But Unwilling To File For Divorce? 4 Steps You Can Take

Unhappy but unwilling to file for divorceFor some couples, divorce is never an option. It doesn’t matter whether they’re happy, unhappy, or indifferent. They signed up for “till death do us part” and they’re not breaking that pact. But if you refuse to file for divorce, then you owe it to yourself and your spouse to improve upon the things that are lacking in your relationship. That’s why we’ve decided to take a look at four things you can do to turn things around if your marriage is faltering. Here goes!


Counseling is probably the most obvious option for what you can do to repair what is broken in a relationship. Counselors are trained listeners, who can help you both break down the barriers of communication that are keeping you apart. They can also offer helpful advice regarding how you communicate and what you can expect from each other. Whether you’re constantly at each other’s throats or simply weighing a non-combative do it yourself divorce option, you should at least give counseling a try before calling it quits.

Start Planning To Do More Things Together

Sometimes unhappiness can overtake your marriage without either of you even expecting it. You don’t really have anything against the other person, but you both seem like you live in different worlds. It could be work, school, or other factors keeping you apart. Regardless, snap out of it! Make some time to speak to your partner and say something like this: “Listen, we haven’t gotten to spend a lot of time together lately. I feel like we’re in a rut, and we need to do something about it.” Then, plan things that you can do together. Play tennis, pick a book that you would like to read and take turns reading it aloud to one another, go to the symphony. Communicate what you like to do, and then take turns actually commit to doing it together.

Stop Blaming Each Other

When a marriage falls apart, communication (or the lack thereof) is usually to blame. Stop blaming the other person, and realize that assigning blame is less important than fixing the issues.

Sleep Apart

This is probably going to be the most controversial suggestion, but there is actually some science to back it up. According to a recent study from Ryerson University (reported by The Daily Mail), sleeping in different beds/rooms can actually help a struggling relationship by allowing both partners to reach deeper stages of sleep. This occurs because a person’s sleeping activities are often to blame for disrupting the other partner’s rest throughout the night.

“People can have very good and satisfying relationships sleeping apart,” explains Colleen Carney, author of the study. “Some people might be headed to divorce and then they actually sleep apart and find this new way to connect.”

If you’re sure that you want out of your marriage, then our DIY divorce site can help you through the process in a flash, if uncontested. But if neither of you want out but feel your marriage could use a boost, try the steps above, and you may be able to reignite your feelings for one another.

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