Don’t Settle! Know The Warning Signs Ahead Of Time
As an online divorce review site, we like to help our clients not just by empowering them to make the right decision on attorneys or forms completion services, but also in finding the courage to escape a life of settling for less than what you deserve. In a recent post for DivorcedMoms, Terry Gaspard tackled this very subject and pointed out the five signs of settling:
- The relationship brings you down.
- You feel you have to change yourself.
- You are in an emotionally or physically abusive relationship.
- You’ve been cheated on repeatedly.
- You sacrifice too much.
What wonderful advice! While each is important to remember, sacrificing too much is one that we’d really like to focus on today.
No one said that relationships were easy and that there wasn’t a give-and-take that had to be accomplished to make them work. However, sacrificing too much of who you are and what you want out of life is a direct indicator of broader problems in the relationship.
It is a sign that your spouse fails to take your life goals and ambitions into consideration; a sign that what is important to you, is just not that important, period.
In a healthy, committed relationship, both people make sacrifices for each other, not just because that’s what they’re supposed to do, but because they love and respect the person they married.
If you feel like you’re sacrificing too much, it’s generally because the other person isn’t sacrificing anything at all. They are either getting their way all the time, or they’ve lost sight of the spark that made both of you remarkable people, and they’re now content to a tranquil life of domestic boredom.
Either way, that’s bad for you, and you deserve better. They deserve better. And if you can’t make them see that, then the marriage is on a bad road.
If you’ve reached the end of that road and you’re not sure what to do next, make sure you check out our online divorce reviews for attorney referrals and forms completion, depending on whether your divorce will be contested or not. Best of luck to you, and remember: don’t settle!