As an online divorce review site we are interested in the divorce process and how people choose to cope with it. It’s easy to make mistakes throughout the process, but if you can avoid these 7 don’ts, then you’ll be better off than most no matter what.

1. Don’t bring your kids into it more than they already are.

2. Don’t take revenge. It just begins a vicious circle of hatred that can grow well beyond the divorce itself.

3. Don’t start dating too soon afterward, and the minute you realize you’re dating another person just like your ex, cut it off.

4. Don’t introduce your kids to any new significant other too soon.

5. Don’t try to rekindle your relationship especially when you see that your ex has moved on. Furthermore, don’t pray or hope for your ex’s failure in the post-divorce world. That will only make you bitter, and you’ll be so hung up on them that you’ll forget you’ve got a life of your own to live.

6. Don’t fall back into your old patterns. Being divorced is about ending one thing and moving on to something new. Use yours as an opportunity for growth — in particular, growing into the person that you want to be rather than the one that you were.

7. Don’t make dumb financial mistakes. If the divorce was particularly painful, you may want to “treat” yourself in order to lift those spirits. That’s fine, but know where the “too far” line is, and don’t cross it. If you play your cards right, divorce will be kind to your pocketbook, and yes, that’s even if you have to pay child support. It’s because beyond the necessary expenses, you’re the one in control of how money is used. You don’t have to rely on someone else’s perhaps-irresponsible spending patterns. 

If you’re still at the precipice of divorce, we hope this hot list of don’ts helped you. If you need any help with your case, we recommend reading our online divorce reviews on both forms completion (for DIYers) and attorney referral services (for you traditionalists). Good luck!